liz011

7 Things I Wish Parents Would Stop Teaching Their Children:

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this-selfish-war-machine:

goddess-river:

  1. That nudity is inherently sexual
  2. That people should be judged for their personal decisions
  3. That yelling solves problems
  4. That they are too young to be talking about the things they’re already starting to ask questions about
  5. That age correlates to importance
  6. That interacting with someone of the opposite sex is inherently romantic
  7. That the default for someone is straight and cisgender
  1. Nudity is OFTEN sexual, often enough to be concerned about children seeing it
  2. Personal decisions that are judged by those who are unprejudiced and trustworthy are probably bad decisions
  3. If the argument escalates to yelling in the first place, then there’s an obvious reason for it that you’re not seeing.
  4. I’m not going to explain sex ed to a 5 year old, sorry come back in 8 years or so
  5. It doesn’t correlate to IMPORTANCE, but it does correlate to EXPERIENCE, which a young person doesn’t have much of, decreasing the value of their “wisdom/knowledge”
  6. Fair.
  7. The majority of people are straight and cisgender; That literally makes it the default/standard

Tumblr needs to stop acting like it has all the answers/has it all figured out when they’re still in the process of learning and growing.

  1. The main reason that nudity is often sexual is that our society is so weirded out by naked bodies that basically the only time we allow them is for sex.  The concept that nudity is inherently sexual is part of why so many people are opposed to breastfeeding in public—they’ve been trained to think that women’s nipples are pornographic.
  2. How many people do you know who are unprejudiced?  Yes, some decisions are bad decisions and people should be shunned from polite society for making them.  However, getting a tattoo, dying your hair blue, or having sex before marriage are examples of things that don’t make you a bad person but can lead to a large portion of society assuming that you are.
  3. Yes, yelling usually happens for a reason.  But also sometimes it is part of an abusive relationship and it shouldn’t be normalized to the point that people don’t recognize when it’s a problem.
  4. The original point was about answering questions that the kid is already asking about.  Usually, this doesn’t mean explaining all of the details of sex to a five-year-old.  And you can answer questions in age-appropriate ways.  (Also, are you really going to wait until a kid is 13 to answer any sex-related questions?  They’re going to look things up online before you ever get around to talking to them if that is your approach.)
  5. Age does correlate with experience, but that doesn’t mean that the experiences of younger people are inherently less valid.  People who came of age in the 1980’s genuinely do not understand how impossible it is for a recent graduate to earn a living wage these days (or even to get a job).  If your philosophy is that anyone under the age of 30 doesn’t have enough experience to have an opinion on politics, you end up ignoring a lot of people who are directly affected by the decisions their politicians are making.
  6. We don’t disagree on this one.
  7. "Default" would mean that these are the factory settings and any deviation from that is abnormal.  "Common" and "Normal" are not the same thing, and all it would mean to not treat cishet as the default is that you don’t talk about people in a way that assumes they’re cishet when you have no information about that and you don’t treat it as weird when someone isn’t cishet.  It’s as simple as changing "Are you going to ask a girl to the dance?" to "Are you going to ask someone to the dance?" and "Ooh, that’s a fancy valentine.  Is it from a boy?" to "Ooh, that’s a fancy valentine.  Is it from someone special?"

I know that tumblr doesn’t have all the answers, but when people on tumblr are complaining about things like this, it’s often because of shit we’ve had to put up with our real lives.  People are allowed to be upset that their parents dismiss their opinions based on their age or treat their identity as unnatural or nonexistent.